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Lola Jane Thorne: Writing


What do boundaries sound like?
So what boundaries sound like?
Having a few phrases that you familiarise yourself with can be life changing - it can help you to stay calm

Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Jun 14, 20234 min read
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From Comparison to Confidence: Rebuilding Your Self Worth
Bodies, money, houses, cars, success - we are all living in a world where the perfect life is being constantly shared to us, either by...

Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Jun 1, 20234 min read
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Running marathons and holding onto goals that make me feel bad
How do blurry boundaries impact your goals? Have you ever seen a picture of someone else doing something: they are smiling wide into the...

Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Aug 11, 20213 min read
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Are you open to receiving joy?
Rejecting joy is a specific form of self-sabotage. It is messy and crosses over many self-sabotaging behaviour and self-limiting beliefs,...

Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Apr 28, 20216 min read
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A letter to parents facing an early diagnosis of cystic hygroma in a pregnancy
Dear parents, After scouring the internet for medical papers with potential or positive information, you may find yourselves faced with...

Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Apr 21, 20215 min read
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Choosing to Trust: 3 lessons I learnt about trust after heartbreak
Over the years we may have learnt trust can be hard, because we have seen it - and sometimes felt it - shatter so many times. How do we...

Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Oct 1, 20205 min read
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How to support someone who is feeling suicidal
There is still a huge stigma around suicide, that is felt not only by those experiencing suicidal thoughts, but also by the loved ones...

Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Sep 10, 20206 min read
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Motivational quotes around COVID-19 and why they are making me so angry
A month ago we were in a collective panic, denial, fear – our supermarket shelves were empty and people’s sense of anxiety and fear had...

Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Apr 14, 20205 min read
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9 ways to feel calmer in under 5 minutes
In today's world of constant news, change and readjustment, it is likely that you are carrying far more tension around in your body than...

Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Apr 2, 20205 min read
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Hating how they chew and 10 helpful conflict resolution strategies
Divorce rates in China have spiked following self-isolation. Have you ever spent 24 hours solidly with you partner day after day? By now...

Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Mar 29, 20204 min read
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Take up your space - You aren't "too much"
I had learnt to stop asking for my needs to be met until every so often I would burst from holding them in, I would feel shame and guilt.

Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Feb 24, 20205 min read
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