Lola Thorne: Videos on Boundaries

One of the most important things to remember when you are trying to set boundaries is to plan for people's reactions.

 

People are drawn to similar patterns that they are used to, so work environments, social relationships can all be similar patterns. For example, if you had hot and cold loving parents, then you may find yourself in a high-pressure job where you are chasing deadlines.

When you start to set boundaries people may respond strongly. It is not for you to change the boundary, it’s for you to acknowledge that this will take practice, for you and for them, to get used to it. That’s normal. You are disrupting the familiar/previous pattern.